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Como poner límites sin sentir culpa

El principio de la tolerancia.

Cuando sientes que hay situaciones o personas que te quitan la paz, que te atormentan, que pretenden manipularte o forzarte a tomar ciertas decisiones que no van en la línea de lo que crees, sientes o quieres, es momento de poner límites y dejar de tolerar.

 

La tolerancia es la actitud de una persona que respeta las opiniones, ideas acciones o actitudes de las demás personas, aunque no coincidan con las suyas.

 

Sin embargo, la tolerancia llevada a extremos, termina por producir el síndrome de la víctima permanente, o sea, sentirte miserable porque la gente siempre se aprovecha de ti. Por lo que no debes permitir que personas o acciones de otros, afecten tu capacidad sentir, pensar o actuar de acuerdo a lo que tu deseas hacer.

 

Es importante para tu salud emocional y desarrollo personal que reacciones ante cualquier acción que afecte tu capacidad de expresarte.

 

Este criterio debe estar determinado por la siguiente pregunta: ¿Hay que tolerarlo todo…? La tolerancia debe ser limitada, pero ¿cuál es ese límite?

 

¿Cuándo es el momento de poner límites?

Poner límites simple y sencillamente se refiere a decir no cuando no quieres algo y sí cuando lo deseas o lo necesitas. Por medio de marcar limites, una persona tiene la capacidad de lograr su libertad al sentir, actuar y pensar, es decir, a ser dueño de sí mismo.

 

Estos límites se vuelven urgentes cuando una persona es manipulada al extremo de convertirse en esclavo de alguien más, sin voz, sin voto, y anula completamente su ser para complacer al otro, sin ser capaz de darse cuenta de que está en peligro su integridad física o psicológica al ser demasiado tolerante en esta situación.

 

 

Porque poner límites:

En el lenguaje cotidiano tolerar a alguien es lo mismo que decir que lo soportamos, pero la tolerancia bien entendida más que soportar se refiere a respetar y actuar con asertividad.

 

La tolerancia es una virtud, pero sin límites definidos por la dignidad personal se convierte en una falta de respeto para ti mismo, que es humillante y aniquila tu esencia.

 

Así como nos indignamos frente a la injusticia ajena, también tenemos la obligación moral de indignarnos cuando nuestros derechos personales se violan, por eso, no tolerar a los abusivos es una manera de respetarse a sí mismo. Tienes derecho a la resistencia y a no dejarte embaucar por el sufrimiento. ¡Nadie está obligado a subyugarse!

 

¿Como poner límites?

Cuando ya has establecido que llegó el momento en que no puedes tolerar más una situación o a una persona que te hace sentir mal o te priva de actuar de la manera en que tu deseas hacerlo, debes pasar a la acción lo antes posible. Y por favor, quita de tu mente la idea de que al poner límites te conviertes en una persona egoísta. Que te quede claro: Tienes derecho a que te respeten, pero solo puedes disfrutar de ese derecho si lo pides.

 

Partiendo de ahí, la mejor y más efectiva forma de poner límites es:

 

Hablar desde tu interior y sin juzgar al otro.

Es decir, trata de mostrar cómo te sientes cuando el otro te está invadiendo o faltando el respeto, pero sin juzgarlo ni etiquetarlo. Al hacerlo de esta manera, la persona con quien hablas se replantea como te está tratando y normalmente, cuando se dé cuenta de que te está haciendo daño, pondrá el freno y evaluará su comportamiento.

Esto solo funciona si se lo dices sin ánimo de hacerle daño o de enjuiciarle. No te olvides, siempre con Amor. Seguramente, aunque el otro no llegue a comportarse como a ti te gustaría, si empiezas a ponerle límites no le quedará más remedio que cambiar su manera de tratarte.

Y, lo más importante, es que al menos tú podrás empezar a vivir tranquila, a valorarte y a sentirte bien.

Así que no sientas culpa si en algún momento de tu vida pusiste limites o decides hacerlo en algún momento, en situaciones que atentan contra tu dignidad y te hacen sentir menospreciado o humillado. Recuerda que poner límites te abre la puerta a la libertad de ser quien eres, especialmente si lo haces de manera asertiva. Ahora, ya solo depende de ti. Cada día, tú eliges si poner límites o no ponerlos.

Si deseas saber más de crecimiento personal te invito a que visites Rise Programs, adquieras la membresía y accedas a los cursos y talleres creados especialmente para ayudarte a desarrollar tus habilidades y que te conviertas en una mejor versión de ti mismo.

 

Yo soy Adriana Gallardo, y esto es Rise Programs, la puerta al éxito.

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¿Estas Frustrado porque todo te sale mal?

Somos lo que toleramos.

 

Eres de las personas que por más que se esfuerzan para que las cosas funcionen y les salgan bien, ¿no lo logras?

 

Siempre llegas tarde, todo lo que planeas no logras terminarlo o las cosas simplemente, no salen como esperabas y tu sentimiento de frustración se repite una y otra vez haciéndote sentir incapaz.

 

¿Te has puesto a pensar que todo esto puede ser debido a ti mismo, a malos hábitos que has adquirido, como la falta de disciplina?

Es muy fácil querer hacer las cosas sin hacernos completamente responsables, y luego, cuando no salen bien, culpar a los demás, al clima, o poner cualquier pretexto para disculparte por no ser disciplinado.

 

Cuando hablamos de indisciplina nos referimos al comportamiento desorganizado de una persona, que se ve reflejado en dificultades para terminar tareas, impuntualidad, desorden, resistencia a seguir normas y obligaciones y actitud desinteresada por cumplir sus propósitos. Es decir, la indisciplina se refleja en esos malos hábitos que nosotros mismos nos permitimos, como: la desidia, ver mucha tv, muchas fiestas, el no saber decir no, siempre querer ser parte de todo, la flojera y lo peor justificar cuando algo te sale mal.

 

Al ser consciente de esto, podrás darte cuenta de que tú mismo limitas tu éxito, pues cuentas con las capacidades necesarias para salir adelante. Solamente necesitas ser constante, perseverante, pero más que nada, cumplir lo que prometes, aprender a manejar tu tiempo y priorizar tareas.

¿Sabías que la mayoría de las personas le tienen más miedo al éxito que al fracaso? Pues, por increíble que parezca, así es, y por eso se auto sabotean una y otra vez sin darse cuenta. De ahí, surge muchas veces la indisciplina.

 

Para evitar seguir sintiéndote frustrado, puedes comenzar a practicar estos sencillos pasos, para mejorar tu disciplina e iniciar el camino hacia el éxito en todos los aspectos de tu vida.

 

  1. Enfrenta tus miedos. Confía en ti. Tu eres capaz de lograr todo lo que te propongas, si eres capaz de creer en ti.

 

  1. Desarrolla tus habilidades. Capacítate profesional y personalmente, aprende sobre lo que quieres realizar, esto te permitirá controlar tus acciones y reacciones siendo más consciente de ti mismo y del mundo que te rodea.

 

  1. Organiza tu tiempo. Lleva una agenda en donde puedas anotar todas las actividades que necesitas realizar, con horario especifico, para que puedas cumplir con todas.

 

  1. Comprométete contigo mismo. Escribe una especie de diario, en donde anotes todo lo que quieres realizar, y los avances que vas logrando paso a paso hasta llegar a tu meta. Esto te mantendrá motivado y hará que te sientas no solo comprometido, sino que disfrutes paso a paso el proceso, incluyendo los obstáculos que logres vencer.

 

Recuerda que el poder está en ti, eres aquello que toleras de los demás, pero principalmente de ti mismo, mereces una vida llena de logros y éxitos y ¡tú puedes lograrlo!

 

Si te gustaría iniciar con la transformación de tu vida, puedes comenzar hoy mismo, adquiriendo la membresía de Rise Programs, donde contamos con herramienta que te ayudan a identificar y desarrollar todas tus capacidades. No lo pienses más y conviértete en la mejor versión de ti mismo. Rise Programs, La puerta al éxito.

 

 

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EVITA SER UNA PERSONA PROMEDIO

A nadie le gusta ser parte del grupo de personas promedio, lamentablemente la mayoría de personas caen, sin darse cuenta, en esta categoría. Y es que todos queremos ser diferentes, pero si tu forma de pensar es igual a la de las personas comunes, que creen que lograran grandes cosas pensando como lo hacen los demás, siguiendo lo que todos hacen y creyendo que una buena decisión es aquella que es aprobada por la mayoría, difícilmente entraras en una categoría distinta.

Si tú, eres una de las personas que realmente quiere brillar y no ser del promedio, rompe el molde, y haz lo que te va a diferenciar de los que creen que hacen algo y los que realmente lo hacen.

A continuación, te comparto 9 pasos para diferenciarte del montón y que evites ser una persona promedio:

  1. Haz una reflexión cada día y analiza cuales son las cosas que hacen que te vaya bien o mal.
  2. Lee por lo menos un capítulo de un libro por día.
  3. Aparta por lo menos media hora de tiempo al día para ti misma, esto te ayudará a aclarar tus ideas y te hará avanzar más rápido.
  4. Hoy día dedicamos mucho tiempo a estar en las redes sociales. Es importante que tomes tiempo para eliminar lo innecesario de las mismas, todo lo que te distrae, te quite tiempo y claramente no tiene nada que ver con el propósito de tu vida.
  5. Ponte como meta personal aprender algo nuevo al día. Aprender una cosa y solo una cosa diaria mantendrá tu mente activa y motivada, desde cosas sencillas como cocinar hasta algo que nunca imaginaste hacer.
  6. Ten pequeñas metas u objetivos diarios, comprométete contigo y asegúrate de cumplir. Pueden ser cosas sencillas como irte a dormir más temprano, integrar a tu dieta más frutas y verduras, ver menos televisión, leer más, hacer algo de ejercicio, etc. Estas metas son como pequeños pasos hacia una vida más ordenada, que día a día convertirás en hábitos.
  7. Rodéate de gente que tenga los mismos valores y objetivos que tú.
  8. Celebra cada meta alcanzada, incluyendo esos pequeños logros que te ayudarán a transformar tu vida.

Recuerda que la persona mas importante en tu vida eres tu y necesitas dedicarte tiempo, tenerte consideración y tratarte con amor para crecer y transformarte en la mejor versión de ti misma. Si tu no lo haces, nadie lo hará por ti.

En Rise Programs contamos con todas las herramientas que necesitas para que desarrolles tus habilidades y logres realizar tus sueños.

Si este contenido te parece útil e interesante, te invito a que te suscribas al canal de Rise programs y nos sigas en nuestras redes sociales.

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5 AWESOME THINGS TO LOOK FORWARD TO IF YOU QUIT SMOKING NOW

The number of people who smoke cigarettes in the United States has plummeted to an all-time low. This is according to recently released data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). In 2017, 14 percent of America’s population were active consumers of cigarettes and tobacco products. This number fell from 15.5 percent of the U.S. population in 2016. The rate in 1965, which is the year when the National Health Interview Survey (NHIS) started tracking tobacco-use, was at an alarming 81 percent level. The reason for this significant decline is a decades-long combination of tobacco price increases, new anti-smoking laws, public awareness campaigns and increased medical interventions for addiction.

There’s Still Work to Do:
     While the CDC’s research indicates commendable progress towards eradication of tobacco-use, 14 percent of America’s population still equates to 34.3 million people. Not only are millions of people still susceptible to complications from smoking such as lung cancer, addiction is still a side effect that impacts a variety of age-groups, including youth. According to the CDC, smoking still kills more than 480,000 people every year. Considering the fact that people have the choice not to smoke, all of these deaths are completely preventable.

It Might be Hard, but Quitting is Worth It:
     Honestly speaking, if you’re still a smoker, no one can blame you for feeling fatigued with the stigm! a. Between the ominous statistics, and scary commercials, it can feel like the entire world is judging you for something that’s hard to control. Deep down inside though, you have to admit that times are changing. The more people in general quit smoking, the less peace of mind you’ll have about clinging onto tobacco. Even if you disregard the negative health effects, smoking as a habit is getting more expensive every day, and less popular to boot. All of this means that now is the perfect time to let go of the stress and get the monkey off your back. There’s a world of benefits waiting for you if you dare to put yourself out there and take the first step. Here are just a few:

1. Food will Taste Better:
As new smokers build up tolerance to cigarettes, they also inadvertently dull their sense of taste and smell by constantly inhaling smoke. Letting go of cigarettes reverses this side-effect and allows your s! enses to reset.

2. More Stamina:
Quitting cigarettes allows your lungs to breathe in more oxygen and less carbon monoxide. With purer oxygen being supplied to your bloodstream, your metabolism will immediately revive and allow you to be more active.

3. Happier Retirement:
It might not seem like it when you’re young, but the decisions you make today determine the quality of life you’ll enjoy when you’re older. The sooner you quit smoking, the less risk you have of dealing with events like heart attacks, strokes, or cancer.

4. Big Savings:
Heavy smokers can end up spending! up to $9,000 a year on cigarettes. When you think about it, that’s basically the same thing as burning all that money into ashes. Quitting cigarettes allows you to save a ton of cash.

5. Smell Fresh:
You might not even realize it but if you’re a heavy smoker, chances are you reek of tar. If you’re tired of smelling like a firefighter all the time, try kicking the habit. Everything from your clothes, to your skin, to your hair will smell better than it usually does.

Nobody’s saying that quitting is going to be easy. But if you give it an honest try, it will definitely be worth it. You owe it to yourself, and to everyone you love, to treat your body like a temple and live as healthy a life as possible. Just remember that quitting tobacco is a journey. It took a long process of behavior to build up y! our current tolerance to cigarettes, and it will take an equally long process to cope without tobacco. So be kind to yourself along the way. If you stumble and fall, get back up and keep trying. There is simply no excuse for anyone to risk their lives over a habit that adds no value to success or survival.

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8 ROOKIE MISTAKES THAT KEEP RUINING YOUR HOLIDAYS YEAR AFTER YEAR

The holiday season can feel like such a mixed bag of emotions. On one hand, everybody’s looking forward to kicking back and celebrating in all the good cheer. After all, what’s not to like about hopping from one party to the next as you enjoy good food and even better company. It’s the perfect time to unplug, unwind and laugh. But that’s just the problem… as much as you may expect to make merry memories, the holidays are never completely perfect. Mishaps and mistakes happen. People argue at the dinner table. Something always happens out of nowhere to throw a wet blanket on festivities. To be honest, it’s impossible to have a totally stress-free holiday season, but that doesn’t mean you’re helpless to avoid some of the traps that usually ruin every! body’s fun. Here are eight common mistakes to avoid if you want to make the most out of the holidays:

     1. Last-Minute Shopping:
Whether or not you intend to host guests for the holidays, the closer you shop to the actual date of a holiday, the more crowds and shortages you’ll have to deal with. Make life easier and shop early.

     2. Dodging Chores:
There are two types of people during the holidays: the planners who prepare and clean everything up afterwards, and the slackers who only show up when dinner is served. Don’t be a slacker. Doing your part to pitch in is a great way to show your family and friends that you love them.

     3. Wingin’ It:
The only thing worse than shopping at the last minute is hosting parties or events without a plan. No matter how you intend to spend your time, if you’re going to share it with others, make a calculated effort to ensure their comfort and safety.

     4. Pigging Out:
Junk food reigns supreme during the holidays. However, just because you’re surrounded by delicacies doesn’t mean that’s the only food you should consume. Drink plenty of water, serve fresh fruits and vegetables as well. Keep the option to eat healthy open.

     5. Showing Off:
Sometimes it’s with decorations, and sometimes it’s with gifts, but the temptation to splurge money and impress people gets really intense over the holidays. Don’t spend! a fortune to prove a point that everyone will probably forget by New Year’s.

     6. Being Selfish:
You have all-year to be egocentric. When the holiday season arrives, try at least once to do something selfless for other people. Donate your time and resources to philanthropy. Volunteer. Do something to make this world a better place besides shopping for loved ones.

     7. Falling on Your Sword:
If you happen to be a control freak, don’t turn yourself into a martyr by taking over the holidays and molding them in your own image. Invite everyone around you to participate, and let your planning be a team effort. The party’s always more fun when every person is given a chance to contribute to a shared experience. 
     8. Talking Politics
Politics is poison, especially during the holidays. Even if you’re surrounded by like-minded people, be considerate and put away all political discourse. The last thing anyone wants to think about during a party is government.

Yes, bad things can happen unexpectedly during the holidays, but if you have it within your power to prevent chaos, then by all means do so. As you gather with friends and family this holiday season, always remember that the reason why we go through all the fuss of cooking turkeys and congregating together is because of one word – love. So as much as possible, do everything you can to ensure that the time you spend with others throughout what’s left of the year is filled with love, and packed with positivity. Be safe, and Happy Thanksgiving.

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COMIENZA HOY CON EL CAMBIO EN TU VIDA

Agradecer es simplemente un acto de reconocimiento y apreciación por lo bueno que sucede en la vida, y puede hacerse a Dios, al Universo, a otra persona o a uno mismo. La gratitud es una de las mayores expresiones de amor, un acto sagrado que realizamos cuando reconocemos que algo bueno nos es otorgado.

El hecho de tener una celebración cuyo objeto principal es dar las gracias por lo bueno que se experimenta en la vida, permite cuando menos recordar un gesto que deberíamos realizar a diario. Agradecer es un acto que, llevado a cabo de forma diaria, puede llegar a cambiarte la vida, creándote mayor consciencia, para comprender que todas las experiencias que llegan a tu vida, son oportunidades de crecimiento y aprendizaje.

Hoy es un buen día para reflexionar sobre el agradecimiento y la mejor manera de hacerlo, por lo que a continuación te compartimos 5 maneras de realizarlo:

  1. Da Gracias por cada nuevo día:

Al agradecer cada mañana por un nuevo día, comienzas la jornada con mejor energía, abriendo la oportunidad de disfrutar buenos momentos, sintiéndote feliz por todo lo que ya tienes y disponiéndote a vivir las diferentes situaciones que se te presenten todos los días.

  1. Haz un listado de las cosas buenas que hay en tu vida:

Realizar esto con frecuencia tiene el poder de cambiar tu vida y se trata de dedicar cada cierto tiempo unos minutos para reflexionar sobre las cosas buenas que tienes en tu vida. Anota todo lo que llegue a tu mente en una libreta especial para esto, anotando motivos por los que agradeces, como, por ejemplo:

  • Poder ver la sonrisa de tus seres queridos
  • Disfrutar de unos días de vacaciones o de un viaje especial
  • Tener la oportunidad de celebrar con tus amigos
  • Convivir a diario momentos especiales con la persona amada
  • Tener el trabajo que siempre has querido, (aunque aun estés en el camino a conseguirlo)

Y así, cualquier cosa que sea motivo de gozo para ti, puedes incluirla en tu libreta.

  1. Abre tu mente y tu corazón a recibir cosas buenas, simplemente porque lo mereces.

Este es un ejercicio que consiste básicamente en decir “sí” a lo que te ofrece la vida. Acepta los gestos amables que los demás tienen para contigo, o las buenas situaciones que la vida te presenta, como parte de todo lo que te mereces. Date permiso para disfrutar lo que llega a tu vida, y agradécelo. Porque si te cierras a ello te estarás convirtiendo en tu propia víctima. Recuerda que, si vives quejándote, no puedes disfrutar de la vida.

  1. Agradece lo que los demás hacen por ti.

Seguramente, cuando te regalan algo, por educación siempre lo agradeces. Sin embargo, el verdadero agradecimiento se expresa con emoción. Agradece siempre con una sonrisa, haz contacto visual y libera tus sentimientos a la otra persona que, seguramente también vivirá la agradable experiencia de tu agradecimiento sincero.

  1. Al final del día, agradece por tres cosas buenas que te hayan sucedido.

Cada día tiene su propio afán, por lo que seguramente tienes días mejores que otros, pero todos lo días puedes experimentar cosas buenas. Cada noche a la hora de dormir piensa en 3 cosas buenas que te han sucedido a lo largo de día y agradece por ellas. Este ejercicio generará en ti una energía especial que te hará sentir como alguien afortunado.

Cuando dedicas un tiempo diario a agradecer, vives y sientes todo lo bueno que hay en tu vida, y se genera en ti una mentalidad de abundancia y positivismo. Adquirir el hábito de agradecer a diario abre la posibilidad de crear una experiencia de vida plena llena de grandes oportunidades, al mismo tiempo que te permite aceptar que eres merecedor de todo lo bueno que la vida te da. Hay tanto por lo que puedes agradecer, comenzando por lo mas simple: despertar cada día, pues genera a tu alrededor un ambiente que atraerá mas cosas buenas y positivas a tu vida, porque incluso aquellas experiencias que no son tan buenas pueden traer consecuencias que siempre te llevaran a ser mejor persona.

El reto: Sin pasar a la acción todo lo que acabas de leer, no será mas que un conjunto de palabras mas o menos bonitas, que intentaron convencerte de que agradecer es una manera de cambiar tu vida. Por eso, el verdadero aprendizaje está en que lo pongas en práctica. Comienza hoy mismo con estos sencillos pasos, realízalos durante 7 días y comparte tu experiencia en nuestras redes sociales.

Ser mejor persona es tu responsabilidad, y cambiar tu vida también. Recuerda que en Rise Programs contamos con cursos, talleres y conferencias presenciales y online que te ayudan a descubrir tus habilidades, brindándote las herramientas paso a paso, para que desarrolles la mejor versión de ti mismo.

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5 AFFIRMATIONS TO PROPEL YOU TOWARDS SUCCESS

Time is precious. Nobody understands this more than the many people who shed tears over missed opportunities every day. When we’re young, life feels like an infinite frontier. It feels like the future is far away, and we can afford to take detours as we wait for our dreams to eventually come true. That is, until life happens. Until time flies, as it naturally does, and in the blink of an eye, the future that once seemed distant somehow ends up in the rear-view mirror. Leaving us with nothing to show for lapsed years but disappointment.

It’s Not Over:
     The guilt of lost time can feel devastating. However, wrestling with regret doesn’t mean that you’ve reached the end of t! he road. On the contrary, no matter how much time you think you may have lost, it truly never is too late to become the person you want to be. All you have to do is pick yourself back up – and try again. Just because you made some mistakes before, doesn’t mean you have to give up on what you want to achieve in life. Just because you’ve faced tragedy in the past as well, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to know the joy of realizing success. As long as you have breath in your lungs, it’s still possible to hope. It’s still possible to work. It’s still possible to fight for what you want. So do it. Try. Because it doesn’t really matter how you started the race, or how long you might take to finish it. The only thing that matters is whether you finish the race strong. If you need some help remembering to keep hope alive, here are five affirmations to recite in the mirror every day:

     I. “My Strength is Greater Than Any Struggle.”
     What doesn’t kill you, can only make you stronger. Always remember that every challenge you’ve survived in the past has equipped you with resilience. Don’t take this fact for granted. Draw from the strength of your past survival in order to overcome the challenges of the future.

     II. “I Choose Faith Over Fear.”
     How you feel determines the focus of your thoughts, what you think about determines the course of your actions, and the actions you repeat establish patterns of behavior. If you expect to make consequential decisions or execute successful behavior, embrace faith and optimism as a core guiding emotion. Fear paralyses. Faith encourages! .

     III. “Success is in My Future.”
Whether or not you realize it, self-fulfilling prophecies are an important ingredient of positive reinforcement. If you confess success into your life, especially before it happens, you will position yourself psychologically to possess success when it finally manifests.

     IV. “I am Becoming a Better Version of Myself One Day at a Time.”
     Ambition is a trait which must never fade from your character. Reciting this affirmation encourages you to challenge yourself relentlessly. It reminds you to take stock of whether you’re working to evolve. The more you l! earn and grow, the more effective your decisions become.

     V. “Every Day is filled with New Possibilities.”
     It’s important to learn from the past, but don’t get so obsessed with reflection that you end up living in it. Progress is about seizing on momentum. It’s about being kinetic and using every fresh start to accomplish new goals. Instead of being complacent, use every new day to add on to your legacy.

To quote Ecclesiastes 9:11, “I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favor to men of skill; but time and chance happen to them all.” The plans you make in life may not always fall into place as expected, but that doesn’t mean you ! should throw in the towel. It matters if you keep trying. It matters if you keep hope alive. Because to be honest, the only victories worth celebrating in life, are those we fight valiantly for.

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3 CONCRETE WAYS TO STEP UP AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT GUN VIOLENCE

Innocent families in California are in mourning yet again because of gun violence. On Nov. 7, 2018, 12 people were fatally shot by a gunman at the Borderline Bar and Grill in Thousand Oaks, CA. The shooting happened at 11:20 p.m. as the bar’s patrons were dancing and socializing. Authorities identified the shooter as Ian David Long, a 28-year-old Marine Corps veteran with a suspected history of mental health issues. Long used a .45 caliber Glock semi-automatic handgun with an extended magazine to shoot a security guard before entering the building, deploying a smoke bomb, and opening fire on everyone inside. Law enforcement arrived at the scene within minutes of the first emergency-calls and began exchanging fire with Long as hundreds of civilians fled the shooting. When the gunfight was over, Long himself was found dead from bullet-wounds in an! office within the bar.

Every Mass Shooting is One Too Many:

To describe gun violence in America as a tragedy would be an understatement. According to research conducted by the Gun Violence Archive, there have been 307 verified mass shooting incidents in 2018 – and counting. Just twelve days prior to Long’s attack, 11 worshipers were killed and six others were injured when a gunman opened fire in the Tree of Life synagogue in Pittsburgh, PA. Arguably the year’s most devastating shooting happened in February, when an active shooter took the lives of 17 students and teachers at Marjory Stoneman High School in Parkland, FL. Every time a catastrophe like this happens, there’s an endless circular debate about one basic question. Why? Why must mass shootings keep happening again and again?

Something Needs to be Done:

Most people want a clear-cut answer to this question. They want to be able to blame one specific element as the root cause of gun violence, assuming that having a clear scapegoat will make the problem easier to fix. But the truth is, gun violence is complex. It doesn’t have just one root cause. Rather, it’s the outcome of a cocktail of ignored problems and lapses in judgement. As complicated as gun violence may be, society no longer has the luxury of standing by while inaction allows innocent lives to get cut short in plain sight. Something needs to be done to address the fact that tens of thousands of people are either injured or killed every year because of preventable gun violence. Whether or not you are a proponent of the constitutional right to bear arms, it’s time to put aside hardline political positions and make compromises in order to make our communities safer. Shootings are no longer crimes that only happen in bad neighborhoods or dark alleyways. They happen in schools and places of worship. They happen at concerts and bars. If people no longer have the freedom to feel safe at places like these, then society is broken. Nobody expects you to have all the answers to the pandemic of gun violence, but here are some steps that would make a good start to solving this horrific problem:

1.       Alert Your Elected Officials:

Congress has the means and opportunity to implement transformational change in gun safety laws. You can provide the motive. Making a phone call or writing to your elected officials lets them know that this is an urgent issue, and it can incentivize them to explore ways in which to protect everyone from gun violence.

2.      Support Gun Safety Groups/Community Leaders:

Not everyone is standing by while gun violence claims lives. There are numerous existing organizations and community leaders who work ever day to keep neighborhoods safe from guns. Do some research on effective groups you can support, and enquire about how to help. You can opt to donate funds, or you can volunteer a helping hand personally. It may surprise you how much of a difference you can make by taking the time to get involved in your own community.

3.      Depoliticize the Gun Safety Debate:

Thanks to years of aggressive lobbying by advocacy groups like the National Rifle Association (NRA), the debate on gun safety has turned into a polarized partisan screaming match. Considering the fact that mass shooters don’t pause to ask victims about politics before pulling the trigger, you shouldn’t be looking for solutions based on political bias as well. If you hear a good idea – support it, no matter where it comes from. If you have to express your own opinions, keep them apolitical. Civility will do more to fix this mess than stubborn grandstanding

Safety isn’t a privilege, it’s a human right. For that matter, it’s a human right that should be guaranteed to everyone regardless of politics. The more people react to mass shootings with skepticism and apathy, the more we normalize what should be regarded by everyone as a heinous atrocity. It’s time to stop avoiding the menace of gun violence, and start coming up with lasting solutions to eliminate it. The only thing preventing this is our own willingness to try.

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4 CRUCIAL FINANCIAL HABITS TO CONQUER BEFORE YOU HIT 40

Most people assume that having money is the key to leading a successful life. While it’s true that money makes the world go around, success doesn’t just happen simple because someone has money. On the contrary, whether rich or poor, young or old, sick or healthy, financial responsibility is actually more fundamental to achieving success than ready access to finances themselves. If someone dumped all the money in the world on your lap, you would be guaranteed to squander it all unless you understood exactly how to conserve and multiply it. Volumes upon volumes of books have been written on what it takes to become financially literate, but to be honest, it all boils down to one word – maturity. Here are four mature habits to practice in order to secure your financial future.

1.      Pay Back Your Debt:

When it comes to managing money, time is a resource which is more precious then gold. It’s an undeniable fact that many people borrow beyond their means when they are young. One big mistake that borrowers tend to make however is procrastinating their obligation to repay debt before reaching retirement-age. Regardless of how bad your situation might be, try as much as possible not to retire in debt. The sooner you act, the better.

2.      Build a Cash Reserve:

Most people have to live paycheck to paycheck in order to get by in life. However, if your financial situation hasn’t evolved in a way that builds savings by the time you’re 40, it’s time to reevaluate how you spend, and how you earn. Every person should live with enough savings in the bank to survive for at least eight months before running out of cash.

3.      Do Some Estate-Planning:

It’s understandable if people feel immortal in their 20s. Don’t allow this false sense of invincibility to cloud your judgement the older you get however. Once you’ve started a family, or once you’ve developed some career success, it’s always wise to take stock of your wealth and plan on how it should be allocated in the event of your death. The sooner you get this planning out of the way, the faster you can get back to enjoying life in peace.

4.      Stop Keeping Up with the Jones’s:

One of the easiest ways to waste money is by trying to be fashionable. People are constantly comparing themselves to others and hustling day and night in order to buy the latest iPhone, or the newest Tesla. If you’re a teenager, this type of superficial prestige might make you popular. But the more you mature, the more you should focus on buying what you need, instead of what entices you.

In the words of Rose Kennedy – “Life isn’t a matter of milestones, but of moments.” This is your moment. This is your moment to take command of your financial destiny and start making decisions that will secure your future. Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow is unknown, but what you choose to do here and now will determine whether you are powerful, or powerless, to the changing whims of fate. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Programs Academy for Business Coaching and Leadership Training can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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5 WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU COULD BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE ABUSIVE

Whenever people enter into romantic relationships, they always hope to live happily ever after. They expect a picture-perfect life full of bottomless love and endless laughter. For some, falling in love actually does end up being like a fairytale, even when things get a little rocky. For others however, relationships can turn into a nightmare of misery thanks to domestic abuse. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), an average of 20 people in the United States are physically abused by an intimate partner every minute. This translates into 10 million women and men being victimized by acts of hostile aggression from a trusted partner, every year.

Don’t be a Sitting Duck:

These statistics are nothing short of a national tragedy. They should serve as a clear warning that each person must be cautious about who they let into their lives through romantic involvement. In a perfect world, everyone would understand how to treat significant others with respect and dignity. Unfortunately, there are countless people with abusive tendencies wreaking havoc daily on their unsuspecting partners, one dysfunctional relationship after another. In the best case scenario, couples in abusive relationships end up parting ways for good. In the worst case scenario – victims of abuse end up injured, or even die. While humanity might not be able to eliminate domestic abuse at the snap of a finger, there are ways that people can protect themselves from abusive partners before the situation gets extreme. It all starts with keeping an eye out for the warning signs of abuse:

1.       Possessiveness:

Abusive people struggle to cope with uncertainty. When stability is introduced into their lives through a significant other, they will resort to extreme behavior to keep hold of this stability by attempting to control their partner at all costs. Severe possessiveness is a red flag that a partner will become aggressive and hostile in future.

2.       Disrespect:

If your partner demonstrates constant disrespect to people during the early stages of a relationship, especially people of lower social standing, that disrespect will ultimately become aimed at you once your relationship becomes familiar.

3.       No Accountability:

It’s a sign of emotional maturity when people are capable of admitting they’re wrong, and taking responsibility for their actions. If you have a partner who constantly blames others or they instinctively project their frustrations onto scapegoats, that’s a sign that they don’t know how to resolve conflict rationally. When the time comes for them to disagree with you, they will fight tooth and nail merely to avoid making any compromises.

4.       Jealously:

Jealously is a natural human instinct when it comes to romantic relationships. But if your partner’s jealously also includes insecurity about platonic and family connections, that’s a giant red flag. Abusive people make gradual attempts to manipulate their partners into abandoning all others for the sake of their relationship.

5.       Physical Intimidation:

Sometimes, a partner’s abusive tendencies manifest in plain sight. If your significant other is physically forceful or physically emotive, that’s a sign that they will become physically violent in future. Pay attention to events like banging tables or punching walls. Be aware of whether they respect your body or your personal space, especially when they’re in a bad mood. Physical aggression while they’re trying to win you over means that things will get much worse when they stop trying to impress you.

There are many more signs that a partner could potentially become abusive in future, however if you notice any combination of these five traits in a significant other, have the courage to remove yourself from the relationship and live free of sadness. The longer you hesitate, or the more time goes by while you ignore your doubts, the more entitled the abuser will feel to take possession of your freedom. You owe it to yourself, and the people who truly love you, never to allow a destructive person to rob you of your confidence and self-respect.

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