3 SECRETS TO SPOT A LIAR WHILE THEIR PANTS ARE STILL ON FIRE
Did you know that statistically speaking, people tell an average of two lies for every ten minutes of conversation they have? Assuming we’re awake for 15 hours, this can translate into an average total of 140 lies told every single day. The majority of lies we tell are trivial white lies. For example, people often blame tardiness on traffic as opposed to confessing the truth about why they’re late. Or we automatically utter the word “Delicious!” when asked the question “How’s the food?” Mixed into these routine innocent lies as well are deceitful boldfaced lies which people also tell in order to mislead. Whether harmless or malicious, lies are a significant component of human interaction because they influence the very stability of our different relationships.
Read Between the Lines:
Whether personal, or professional, the relationships people build with one another often collapse under the weight of dishonesty. Telling lies is an instinctive habit. Unfortunately it’s also a destructive one. This is because even though lies can be necessary to be polite, they still violate trust and make it difficult, if not impossible, to exercise good faith with a person. People who are lied-to feel betrayed. They feel taken advantage of and insulted depending on how deep a relationship has already been established with a liar. While it’s impossible to stop or prevent people from ever lying, it is possible to enhance one’s own emotional intelligence by being analytical of dishonesty. A little observation can help you identify lies as they’re being told, and consequently avoid being duped. Here are three tips on how to detect lies:
1. Be Alert:
The first frontier of lie-detection is making a decision to be attentive as people interact with you. Rather than taking messages at face value, evaluate them as they happen and take mental notes of any apparent signals of deceit. This isn’t something to perform only during conversation, it’s also valuable with written messages. Pay attention to what people say, and how they say it.
2. Read Bodily Cues:
Human beings are creatures of habit. The way we behave at rest, and the way we behave under situations of pressure, vary. The heightened anxiety of lying inevitably alters how people carry themselves as they communicate. For example:
· Posture changes.
· Stuttering happens.
· Inexplicable coughing is triggered.
· Pitch of voice heightens.
· Movement becomes restless.
These are just a few of many physiological indicators that someone is lying. When you notice them, look for more.
3. Look for Inconsistent Information:
Writer and Poet Khalil Gibran once said that “A truth can walk naked … but a lie always needs to be dressed.” One of the surest ways to detect a lie is through logical contradiction or exaggeration of details. If a message seems farfetched, or if it contains too much information, that’s often a sign that the person sending it is bending the truth. If your instincts detect a loophole in what someone says, investigate it further.
Lie detection is not an exact science. There are many unpredictable factors that can interfere with the way people either convey or interpret messages. Instead of counting on an absolute set of rules to pinpoint specific signs of dishonesty, exercise your senses in a way that keeps you alert in the moment. Use your listening to understand rather than hear. Use your vision to scrutinize rather than see. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Programs Academy for Business Coaching and Leadership Training can help you break past your daily struggles! and start soaring in success.