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Losing a loved one to suicide is a devastating experience. Unlike mourning a loss which happens either by accident or natural causes, grieving after suicide triggers conflicting emotions which are painful to confront, and difficult to resolve. Suicide is often unexpected. It shocks every person left behind and fills them with questions of why? This absence of closure makes mourning in the wake of suicide unique. It’s not unusual for people who grieve after a loved one’s suicide to require a lot of time and reflection in order to find peace again. If you are personally grieving over a suicide, or you’re in a position to console someone coping with suicide, here are some words of advice to help survive the loss:

If you have lost a Loved One to Suicide:

1.       Allow your Emotions to Exist:

Grief after suicide unleashes a cocktail of varied emotions. Sorrow is typically expected for example, but people have also been known to feel shock, denial, confusion, guilt, anger, or even counterintuitive emotions like relief. Whether or not your emotions feel appropriate, understand that they are all part and parcel of the healing process. Rather than suppressing them, allow them to emerge, exist, and subside. Everything you feel is normal, so don’t be so hard on yourself about how you react to tragedy.

2.       Don’t Go it Alone:

There’s an age-old proverb which says – a problem shared is a problem halved. This is especially true when healing from the pain of bereavement. If there are people around you who genuinely care about your well-being, spend time with them and draw some support from their kindness. Even if your immediate circle may not be available to sympathize with your hardship, Mental Health professionals can provide therapy to help you deal with your challenges. It’s healthy to have positive interpersonal contact during grief.

3.       Don’t Let Yourself Go:

The anguish of mourning can be paralyzing, and many people sink into depression after losing a loved one. No matter how heartbroken you feel, keep hope alive that time will heal your sadness. Remember to take care of yourself and do the little things. Get some rest, eat some food, keep your surroundings clean and allow your daily routine to continue, even if it’s on a basic level. The more your life slows down to a standstill, the longer it takes to get past the sadness.

If you want to Offer Support to Someone Grieving Over Suicide:

1.       Allow their Emotions to Exist:

Always keep in mind that people who process the trauma of suicide experience a wide range of emotions. The last thing they need is to feel is criticism or judgement. Offer your support in a way that accepts and respects their complex emotional state. Also remember that they deserve to grieve at their own pace, so however long it takes, tailor your support for them in a way that validates their emotions.

2.       Use the Deceased’s Actual Name in Conversation:

Because suicide is controversial and stigmatized, people unwittingly practice a peculiar habit when expressing sympathies after a suicide. Mourners who console survivors bereaved by suicide tend to avoid saying the deceased person’s name out of impulse. This is usually a reflex meant to avoid calling attention to the fact that a suicide happened, but it has the unintended consequence of banishing the suicide victim’s identity altogether. It can feel as if everyone is in denial that a loss has happened. There’s no need to walk on eggshells about saying the deceased’s name. Simply say it if, and when, the occasion calls for it.

3.       Don’t Spread Gossip:

Human beings are social creatures, and one of the easiest things to do in the aftermath of a suicide is gossip and speculate about what led to the tragedy. However, remember to be considerate about what you say, and who you say it to. Be especially careful not to post anything in bad taste on social media. Always allow the bereaved to have privacy, and dignity, as they deal with the loss of a loved one.

It takes a lot of time to recover from the pain of mourning, but it is possible to recover. No matter how dark or difficult things feel in the present, tomorrow is a new day. Have faith that you will get through the pain of this moment. If you are dealing with suicidal thoughts, you are not alone. Please call 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) and a professional will be on-hand to guide you through some counseling. RISE Programs is here to help.

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Do you ever find yourself going to bed early, but still waking up exhausted? Do your days and weeks feel like an endless monotonous cycle? When you reflect on how you spend time, do you ever feel like a hamster in a wheel, bustling 24/7 but getting nowhere? There are many of reasons why people experience such fatigue and frustration. One of the most underestimated reasons however is a lack of vision in life. Because we all get stuck chasing urgent deadlines and schedules, a lot of people end up living more for the moment than for the sake of a greater goal or purpose. Not only is this a tedious way to live, it’s also unhealthy.

Yes, it is important to seize the day. However it’s even more important to understand why you’re seizing the day in the first place. Every person should have a grand vision in life that is informed by clearly defined long-term goals. Understanding your greater purpose is necessary for both overall motivation, and emotional well-being. It sounds unlikely, but having a mindset that is conscious of an ultimate purpose prevents people from obsessing over inconsequential problems. If setting long-term goals sounds like a daunting task, it shouldn’t because all it takes is some honest soul searching. Here are four things to consider when setting long-term goals:

1.       Make them Ambitious:

Small goals can only translate into small victories. If you’re going to invest time and resources into doing something, makes sure it’s a challenge. Make your ideas enticing and creative. Make them bold and impressive. The more ambitious your goals, the more satisfaction gained from fulfilling them.

2.       Make them Measurable:

Goals are not hypothetical concepts, they are actual ideas. They’re a definitive expression of a person’s intent. If at all you expect to follow-through on a goal therefore, you have to ensure you evaluate both the opportunity and resources at your disposal to pursue it.

·         Take stock of every tangible item you need to pursue your goals.

·         Outline every task necessary to accomplish your goals.

·         Schedule how, and when, to implement each step that is necessary to accomplish your long-term goals.

3.       Make them Conceivable:

There’s nothing wrong with having big dreams, but if your dreams are unfathomable, then there’s no possibility of ever turning them into reality. Long-term goals should always be informed by a dose of practicality. There’s a very thin line between testing yourself with hard work, and overwhelming yourself with impossible expectations. Learn to tell the difference between wishing you could set foot on the moon, and wishing you could set foot on the sun.

4.       Make them Your Own:

If you ever develop a long-term goal for yourself, make sure that people-pleasing plays no part in your aspirations. An individual will only ever give their best effort towards plans developed from their own initiative. The more challenging the goal in fact, the easier it is to abandon unless it’s something you want for yourself.

You owe it to yourself to have something to take pride in at the conclusion of life’s journey. Don’t allow an avalanche of short-term goals to eclipse what precious time you have to achieve meaningful success. There’s no telling what you could accomplish if you dare to push the limits of your abilities. Check out more of RISE Programs’ Blogs for helpful advice on healthy living, and remember to spread the word by sharing this post If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Programs Academy for Business Coaching and Leadership Training can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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A Tale of Two Workers:

Once upon a time, there were two completely average blue-collar factory workers. Both of them had the exact same job on an assembly line, in the exact same factory. They both labored for eight hours a day, to fulfill the exact same quota set by a demanding foreman. They even experienced the same amount of responsibility in their respective personal lives. They both had an identical mortgage, an identical car note, and were each married in a home with two kids and a pet dog. There was only one thing which distinguished these two workers from each other. While neither of them had any trouble making ends meet, and they had no risk of ever descending into poverty, one of them was paid a minimum wage, while the other was paid billions to do the exact same job.

Every time the minimum wage worker got home from a hard day’s work, their spouse would welcome them home with a common question, “How was your day?” The response would almost always be outrage: “It was terrible! Exhausting! You wouldn’t believe how much work I have to do just to keep this roof over our heads!” On the other hand, the billionaire worker would face a similar welcome every time they got home. “How was your day?” their spouse would ask. The response would almost always be gracious: “Pretty good actually… had a few stressful moments, but nothing I can’t handle. It’s almost as if the hours were just floating by.” Imagine that. These two people led identical lives, and endured identical stress, yet they each had a polar opposite sense of personal fulfillment. How could this be?

Here’s the Breakdown:

You might be tempted to argue that money is what made the billionaire worker happier. But that’s a superficial answer to the question. Sure, money is important, but money is nothing more than shreds of paper or numbers on a screen. People can’t physically eat money to survive. Nor does it serve any purpose until it’s actually exchanged for something in return. In the story of these two workers, and in the story of all humanity, money is only a vehicle. It is a vehicle to the one ingredient that truly determines how balanced and fulfilled people are in life – and that ingredient is called perspective.

Perspective, simply defined as what we choose to focus on, has the power to influence every facet of our existence. It guides our decisions, it molds our thoughts, and it colors our imagination. If your perspective only allows you to see the negative, it’s impossible to ever feel anything other than frustration and despair. Conversely, if your perspective allows you to be optimistic and ambitious, life can become a thrilling challenge as opposed to a dreadful chore. The wonderful thing about perspective is that you have the power to shape it, no matter what your circumstances are. It takes initiative. It takes strategy. But if you allow yourself to become enlightened about your own potential, no difficulties you encounter will ever imprison your mind with fear.

If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Programs Academy for Business Coaching and Leadership Training can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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There’s a difference between an organization and a team. An organization is formal. It’s a mechanical entity. It’s a collective of talent and resources that have been assembled to accomplish a specific set of objectives. A team on the other hand is personal. It’s a community. It’s a group of people brought together by common ideals and interests. Being in charge of a company requires striking a balance between these two perspectives. A good leader will manage employees in a way that simultaneously fosters formal organizational culture, and sustains more casual teamwork. Whether in charge of an entire company, or a small group of people, if a leader expects followers to survive and function well, their leadership should act as a bridge between the company and its employees. Here are five important pillars of leadership that make it possible to accomplish this outcome:

1. Exemplify Company Values:

Leadership means setting the professional tone and agenda for a team. It means defining the standards by which performance should be measured. Purely because everyone counts on leadership to be an example, a strong leader should always walk the walk when it comes to demonstrating a company’s values. Nothing dissolves a leader’s legitimacy more than hypocrisy.

2. Be Involved:

The only way that employees can understand the importance of a company’s mission is if this mission is articulated clearly. In turn, a company’s mission can only be articulated by management that is interactive with its employees. Good leaders routinely take the time to communicate and engage with employees. The more interactive a leader is, the more focus is maintained on a company’s values overall.

3. Be Transparent:

Beyond merely interacting with employees, management has a responsibility to be honest and authentic about how they lead a company. If employees detect dishonesty in their leadership, it undermines both the integrity with which they cooperate internally, and the integrity with which they serve clients. One bad apple can spoil the bunch. But when that bad apple happens to be a leader, it doesn’t just spoil the bunch it poisons it.

4. Be Organized:

Coordination is one of the most essential ingredients of strong leadership. This is because there are no limits to the elements that a leader is responsible for synchronizing within a team, or company. Leaders are meant to guide growth conceptually, while also orchestrating the specific activities that are meant to execute said growth. This very execution can only happen through discipline and structure. Not only should you be able to inspire others as a leader, you should also be able to train and direct them efficiently.

5. Be Open-Minded:

The more people a leader interacts with, the more likely it is to encounter alternative perspectives and varying temperaments. This makes diplomacy one of the most necessary traits of strong leadership. In order to be effective, a leader must be capable of listening to different points of view, and reconciling any conflicts that threaten the overall functions of a team.

Leadership is more than just a ceremonial role of supervision. It is an ambassadorship. It is an obligation to reflect what a company truly stands for. If you are privileged enough to call yourself a leader, makes sure you understand your company’s values clearly, and continually make an effort to integrate these values with your employees’ individual interests. Check out more of RISE Programs’ Blogs for helpful advice on leadership, and remember to spread the word by sharing this post. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Programs Academy for Business Coaching and Leadership Training can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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