HOW TO MANAGE FAILURE AND SETBACKS IN 3 EASY STEPS
In the words of Sir Winston Churchill, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Everyone’s been there. Sitting dejected in the dark as frustration wrenches a lump of regret in your throat. Agonizing over that one miscalculation, that one mistake, that sent everything haywire. Wallowing in the sting of embarrassing failure as you wonder what happens next, or how to move on. These moments can feel completely hopeless – especially when failure happens within a context of leadership. Failure however, is not fatal. Failure is not a death sentence. In fact, depending on how a leader chooses to react to failure, it can become nothing more than a minor footnote on a bigger journey to success. During life’s toughest moments, it’s important to remember that there is no problem too dire to overcome. All it takes is some positive mental reframing through three main steps:
If you find yourself entangled in a moment of failure, stop cringing over it and take some time to reflect on the situation. Don’t do this in the spirit of obsessing over mistakes. Rather, do it with a singular aim of identifying the specific conditions that led to failure, then correct them. All mistakes in life are an opportunity to learn the difference between right and wrong. Instead of reacting to failure with indulgent emotion, analyze, remedy and grow from it.
Accept that you can’t control everything. Accept that something bad happened, and that sometimes that’s just how the cookie crumbles. Accept that you are human, and imperfect. Beating yourself up about failure can spiral into endless self-pity. This is why it’s important to abandon the impossible expectations of perfectionism. Remembering your own fallibility is a crucial step towards healing that is necessary to move on constructively from failure. Once you accept that failure has happened, it becomes time to reset your attitude towards rebuilding.
If something doesn’t kill you, it only makes you stronger. As long as you have breath in your lungs it means you’re alive to fight, and win, another day. This should be your fundamental mindset no matter what happens in life. Do not collapse in defeat when you fail at something. Instead, focus on surviving. Focus on prevailing. Focus on salvaging what you can and craft a strategy to achieve again. It isn’t easy to regroup especially in the sadness of setbacks. However giving up should never be an option in your mind. Even if you have to reinvent yourself, and your dreams, keep hope alive and have the courage to continue.
Close your eyes and think about a legend you admire. Think about what they accomplished and why it is you respect them. If you pay close attention, you’ll notice that what you admire the most about them is the fact that they did not surrender to failure. Resilience is a virtue. It’s what sets great leaders apart and cements admiration for them. No matter what happens in life, be resilient and never give up. It will turn your life story, into a success story. Check out more of RISE Programs’ Blogs for helpful advice on leadership, and remember to spread the word by sharing this post. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love our many informative workshops and events listed on Eventbrite: http://bit.ly/2lQZx7J Join RISE Programs any time to learn how to break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.