Broken people live fractured lives and break others. Healthy people live healthy lives and heal others.

You will always reproduce the environment around you that you cultivate within you. In other words your internal reality will define your outward.

Many people have pain inside them that hasn’t been dealt with. The roots of these fractures could be traced all the way back to our conception. The circumstances of our birth and upbringing can cause us to believe lies about ourselves that keep us from the reality of our true identity. The result of these lies is that we develop patterns of behavior that are designed to protect us in a hostile world. We think we have to do whatever it takes to kill the pain and simply survive.

Learning to Love Yourself

We must get the realization of your value and begin to step out of the prison and into the palace. Out of defeat and into your destiny. No longer focusing on your problems rather on your purpose.

When we lack love for ourselves we lack the belief for good things for ourselves and will eventually sabotage ourselves. Just as when someone values us more than we value ourselves, we tend to sabotage our relationship with that person. Secretly, we don’t want them to get close enough to find out that we aren’t as good as they think we are.

When we are trained to feel insignificant, we develop survival skills to try to avoid the pain in turn we avoid love & relationships at the same time. Inward pains that have not been healed produce false beliefs and fears and we become defense to the world around you.

Many people spend their entire lives reacting to what they don’t want to be instead of responding to the call & purpose in their lives. Our past can become our prison. One of the ways we tether ourselves to the past is by reacting to those who abused us and spending our lives trying not to be like them. Yet, people typically become like the person they most despise. You will become what you behold, therefore if you are constantly beholding the person you are trying not to be most likely you will become like them.

We Become What We Imagine

Prov. 23:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

We tend to reproduce what we feast our thoughts upon. What I am realizing about many of us is that we spend much of our lives reacting to what we don’t want to be instead of responding to the call & purpose of our lives.

What are three things that are valuable about you?

How do those three things help other people?

How can those three things help on a greater level?


For the next few days wake up every morning and declare out loud the three valuable things you wrote about yourself and using your imagination visualize what you are declaring.

Richard Martinez

Tranformation Expert