Definition of Criticism:
1. To find fault with: criticized the decision as unrealistic.
2. To judge the merits and faults of; analyze and evaluate.
We don’t need a special gift or powerful discernment to see our faults and weaknesses in people. Whether in our appearance or ability we know we have faults and weaknesses. We all know somewhat where we lack. We know we sometimes do wrong and fall short. When I ask people, “What are your weaknesses?”, 95% of the time they will quickly give me a list. The sad thing is that when I say, “ok, now what are your strengths?” Most of the time they have a lot of trouble giving me a list of their strengths. Many times they will ask me to help because they can’t think of any, so I quickly give them a list. After giving them a list of their strengths they realize how difficult it was to think of their strengths and it’s at that time that I will strategically I ask them, “Why is it so easy for you to give me a list of your weaknesses yet so hard for you to share your strengths?”
What is Self-Criticism?
Self-criticism is something that can rob and kill your life. I’m not talking about self-examination, which is what I want to encourage you to do.
Self-examination is self-criticism through love. Speaking the truth in love. It’s truth that empowers.
Self-Examination is necessary to keep us advancing in every area of our lives.
Self-Examination is looking at yourself and being honest about who you are and who you are not (true humility).
Self-examination is to clearly look at yourself and life in order to be most effective in your stewarding your life in a way that has direction & purpose.
Self-examination isn’t faultfinding but rather potential finding.
The level of self-criticism I see in a person I believe is an indicator of what capacity that person is able to love those around them. I have noticed that the people who are hard on themselves are usually hard on those around them. How they feel about themselves is a main ingredient in how they will treat others.
If you can see your faults & weaknesses, great! This means that you are not in denial. The key is, DO NOT dwell on them. Look past the problem into the potential. Anyone can see the problem. You don’t need to be gifted to do that. To be able to see past the problem and into the potential takes eyes to see and being intentional. This also applies when looking at others. Instead of reacting &/or getting annoyed with others faults and weaknesses see past those problems & into their potential.
Applying this principle of seeing past the problem and into the potential will change your life. It’s gets you to live in a constant renewed mind that see’s good! This is so powerful! What you behold you will become therefore if you focused on good you become better but if you focus on the negative’s it’s will hold you back and even take you down.