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6 SIMPLE HABITS TO TAME AND CONTROL ANGER

Anger is one of the most universal human experiences. Regardless of culture or background, we all know how it feels to simmer, or even boil over, with fury. Anger is defined as an emotional state characterized by intense feelings of displeasure, frustration and annoyance. When we get angry, we get hostile and develop a compelling desire to express our mood through verbal and physical aggression. As normal as it is to experience anger, people also have an ethical duty not to act offensively in the name of venting anger. If anger is allowed to manifest to the point of verbal cruelty or violence, unnecessary and excessive damages could end up being inflicted on people who don’t deserve to suffer.

 

Leaders Never Lose their Cool

Being in leadership particularly demands strong anger-management skills. Considering how many difficult decisions leaders frequently make, having little or no ability to remain composed in the face of provocation is a recipe for disaster. This is mainly because anger causes impulsiveness. Left unchecked, it has the capacity to manipulate people into contradicting every instinct of good leadership they possess. The key to healthy expression of anger isn’t absolute suppression. Nor is it unconstrained expression. Rather, it’s about lifestyle. It’s about routinely practicing habits, in the absence of anger, that actually serve to neutralize aggression at the moment anger begins to build up. Here are 6 healthy habits that significantly help people prevent destructive expression of anger:

 

 

1.       Take up a Hobby:

Especially for people who deal with anger on a repeated basis, fixation happens to be one of the behaviors that deepens anger. Without some form of regular escape, people experiencing frustration have no choice but to think obsessively about their problems and conflicts. Doing something as simple as a hobby not only offers the opportunity to escape psychologically, it also helps regain perspective about how justifiable anger actually is in a given situation.

 

2.       Reject Pessimism:

Positive thinking is powerful. It has the capacity to inspire people into exceptional achievement. When it comes to anger, it has the capacity to prevent people from overrating the true severity of their triggers. Rejecting pessimism doesn’t mean ignorantly viewing the world through rose-colored glasses. It means choosing to have an attitude that isn’t easily swayed towards negative emotion by negligible concerns.

 

3.       Accept that You Can’t Control Everything:

As is the case with fixation, frustration and anger go hand in hand. When people get frustrated, it’s usually because events are transpiring in an unpredictable or uncontrollable way. One of the most futile things a person can ever do therefore is try to gain control of circumstances that simply cannot be dictated. If a problem is too big to solve, don’t overwhelm yourself by thinking or acting on it pointlessly.

 

4.       Learn What Commonly Triggers Your Anger:

Some sources of anger are spontaneous. Most of them however are actually recurring. Instead of drifting through life reacting to the obstacles that trigger anger after the fact, take some proactive initiative to analyze when, how much, and why you actually experience anger. Becoming self-aware helps reveal whether your anger is superficial, or whether it’s caused by deeper issues that require therapy.

 

5.       Communicate:

Angry outbursts are usually the culmination of a breakdown in communication. They represent an attempt to forcefully impose a person’s will as a result of misunderstanding or disagreement. Learning how to communicate with others might sound unrelated to anger, but it is actually at the heart of warding off the likelihood of confrontation. Simple conversation can completely eliminate the very misunderstanding and disagreement that otherwise prompts anger.

 

6.       Pick Your Battles:

Life is a marathon, not a sprint. If you happen to be the type of person that has to win every argument, the sheer volume of conflict that becomes a part of your life will inevitably consume you. Before giving in to bad temper, make a habit of asking what you stand to gain from becoming angry about a problem. If the answer is nothing, then let it go. It may surprise you to discover that many annoyances in life actually resolve themselves without your reaction or involvement.

Anger isn’t an emotion to be dealt with in the moment. In order to gain control of anger it’s healthier to preempt it with habits that cognitively reset your attitude and perspective about how to react to the issues that trigger anger. With the right balance of meditation, self-awareness, and practicality, you’ll find that most of what causes anger hardly warrants outbursts and confrontation. Check out more of RISE Programs’ Blogs for helpful advice on leadership, and remember to spread the word by sharing this post. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823- 7757 to find out how RISE Programs can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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LA DISPOSICIÓN

Complacency is poisonous to progress. There are so many times in life when we’re happy to believe that we’ve done enough. That we’ve given everything of ourselves… but the harsh truth is that we barely scratch the surface of our true potential. That nagging voice which asks us to do more, is called excellence. And it should never be ignored. However much it may torment or frustrate us, the voice of excellence deserves to be heeded. That very voice raises your standards. It is the only thing that can truly motivate you to break from mediocrity and clichéd phrases like “why bother, I’m doing just fine.”

Motivation demands commitment. It requires enough honesty to reflect and review the healthy and unhealthy reasons we do what we do in life. Self-improvement is not easy to do, but it is mandatory if you ever expect to excel.

We all have access to various resources. We work with them, we study, we move, and we live through them. It’s interesting to see how easily we can list the external resources which we think we need; but if we make a parallel list of our inherent resources and talents, it becomes difficult to identify them. Not to mention the fact that this list usually ends up being very short. The fundamental point is not the size of our inherent talents, it’s virtue with which we use them. If faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains, imagine what you can accomplish with your humble resources if you simply chose to use them to the best of your ability.

It is time for you to take an inventory of the virtues, gifts and skills that are already within in you. They cost absolutely nothing, yet they can bring unimaginable wealth and joy to your life.

Daniel Habif

Motivational Speaker

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UN MILLÓN DE MOSCAS

I cannot stand it when people are needlessly confrontational. When people refute, assert or argue just for the thrill of debate. What’s worse is that EVERYONE does this… and WHY? What’s the point of arguing without a clear goal? Or pretending that your perspective is informed by some absolute truth when you actually care more about winning a quarrel than finding the truth? This dishonesty does more harm to the world than cancer. It’s tantamount to believing that shit is delicious just because millions of flies eat it like a buffet. It’s time to stop shunning reason. It’s time to stop judging books by their covers. Gandhi didn’t have an imposing physique, but he’s one of the greatest superheroes of all time. The Beatles never looked like superstars in their youth, but today they stand among the greatest musicians in history. Jesus Christ never sat on a single earthly throne, but we know Him now as t! he King of Kings.

Society has become too clinical. People today are extremely obsessed with polls, statistics, numbers and projections. We are so fixated on analyzing every sphere of life that we forget how to live in the moment. We don’t even know how to be authentically spiritual. What could be more important than allowing the power of God to manifest in our lives? Many believe in statistics with complete devotion. This isn’t to say that there’s something wrong with being technical in life, but numbers and data can never encompass the power of our dreams, desires and talents. THEY CAN NEVER SPARK THE FIRE THAT IGNITES THE INDOMITABLE HUMAN SPIRIT! There are two types of people in this world, those who follow. And those who lead. It is far much better to be a leader inspired by vision, than a follower who can only obey numbers. My position in this blog is not rebellion, because rebellion without purpose is hypocritical. I believe in the individual revolution of the mind, soul and spirit. These are the most powerful tools of the human species. When our imagination and creativity is allowed to work freely, there is simply no limit to how many ideas we can construct. For that matter, there is no such thing as a stupid idea. Just think a little bit about how many of today’s innovations, sprang from ideas that were once considered ludicrous.

Yesterday I attended a meeting at work and it alarmed me how obsessed the director was with beating the competition. Companies shouldn’t focus on competitors who don’t even exist yet. The biggest obstacle to success doesn’t come from external threats, it comes from internal complacency. It comes from how willingly, and how well, a company can outdo themselves. If a company and its employees do not prepare for constant innovation through professional and spiritual preparation of high-performance teams, they will be devastated by others who are wise enough to invest in the fundamentals of human wiring.

If Mexico invested in the innovation of human sciences, or happiness sciences, we would be a completely different country. Today only 4% of young people are studying one of these careers… and we wonder why our society has a broken leg.

Daniel Habif
Motivational Speaker

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THE PROMISE

Do you constantly feel like there’s so much to do, but so little time? Does it feel like your plate is always full? Does all of this make you feel empty inside? As if you always walk into rooms full of people, but you still feel completely alone? There are many who struggle with this strange internal conflict. It is a sadness which manifests in two forms:

Either you have forgotten all the reasons why you actually should be happy in life, or you are sad because you’ve finally stopped pretending to be happy.

I assure you, that things are not as hopeless as they seem. You have a reason for being, and your purpose is powerful. It is important enough to empower you, to motivate you, to inspire you and help you get out of the hole you feel stuck in. Do not focus on whatever it is you may be lacking. Think about your life’s journey instead. Honestly take a pause and think about how far you’ve actually come from. Who cares about unfinished business if you’ve been growing and progressing every day? Sure, you may not be where you want to be, but when you think about it, you aren’t where you started from. And that’s worth appreciating. Dare yourself to be hopeful. Challenge yourself to be brave. Keep your eye on the prize and don’t give up on yourself. Try it one more time. Don’t spend your life buried in regret and waiting to die. Allow yourself to make mistakes an! d learn from them. Die as many times as you can until you feel alive.

The eternal goes before you and never fails. Dare to disembark the boat and you will see your feet walk on the waters.

The troubles you are going through are part of your path, they are not your destiny. Your success story may be just around the corner, so learn to wait for it with optimism. God will never let you be put to shame. It is not our ability in the battle that wins the day, but our will in battle that will ultimately give us victory. So get active! Change the switch! Exchange all those “NOs” with a resounding “YES.” Prolonged passiveness extinguishes initiative. To the lazy mind, everything is usually impossible. Stop making excuses and reasons to sabotage your destiny. People tend to exaggerate the urgency of things they do not have, or goals they haven’t yet accomplished. This is a deception that must end. However humble it may be, take stock of what you already have – then build on it. There is nothing impossible under the sun.

Daniel Habif

Motivational Speaker

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THE NIGHT WAS CREATED FOR REST

There are two types of people in this world: those who are guided by the finite, and those guided by the eternal. People who live in the finite, live to overcome others. On the other hand, people who think about the eternal, live to overcome themselves. Do not worry if things get difficult in life. Don’t stress when things don’t work and nothing changes. Tomorrow is a new day. The night was made to rest, recover, and rejuvenate. So take courage and have faith. There’s no use in crying or wallowing in anguish now when pausing to rest can clear your mind of anxiety and chaos.

Do not anticipate your defeat, speak only of victories! You are your best ally. What’s the point in being your own judge, jury and executioner, when the world has enough enemies for you to face? Always visualize victory in your mind, then, let your heart feel victory, and let your spirit manifest it. The only wars we win are those we plan for. You cannot possibly think of reinventing yourself if you abandon all hope. Be content with the dreamers, the daring, and the brave. Carry yourself like a winner, and stop thinking that nobody loves you or that nobody values you. Think, but above all believe, that something good will happen to you today. That someone is thinking of blessing you, and so it will be. Wait for the early rain because soon you will see everything green. The fruits of your labor will be multiplied and your harvest will be so abundant that you will have to break the walls of your wine presses.

GOD already has a plan for you, and it is perfect.

Daniel Habif

Motivational Speaker

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DON’T LET YOURSELF GO

There’s a big difference between neglecting your body and neglecting your soul. If you neglect your health, your body will get fatigued and ultimately succumb to illness. However, if you neglect your soul and spirit, everything about you will collapse – whether it’s physically, mentally, or emotionally. Sometimes life can feel like one big rat race. If we’re not chasing after the latest fad or trying to figure out what’s trending, we’re drowning in jealously over the fake lives that other people portray on social media. It’s no surprise that so many people wrestle with insecurity every day. Enough is enough! Stop comparing yourself to other people. There is no need to torture yourself wishing for that extravagant trip to Nepal or longing for that neon Lamborghini.

Take a good look in the mirror and accept to stand in your truth. Stand in the truth of your uniqueness. Stand in the truth of your potential. Stand in the truth of your worthiness, just the way you are. Who says you have to have that perfect Instagram life to be happy? It’s more important to be healthy. It’s more important to be content. It’s more important to be secure in who you are whether there is a million dollars in your bank account, or just one. You have the power within you to move mountains! The very power that sustains the entire universe in harmony exists within you. Be still, and listen. Meditate on this thought. You are capable of achieving even your most incredible dreams.

Don’t allow yourself to become a prisoner of discontent. If you spend all of your time creating a reality that only exists in your head, every thought and emotion you have will be contaminated with self-doubt. It’s important to understand that no one is chasing you. The sky isn’t going to fall if you don’t have the perfect life.

Don’t let money and ambition steal the hope, joy, and smile from your life. There are countless traps in this world that threaten to steal your happiness, but remember, your armor is from heaven. The fire inside you is eternal. Your mind is a weapon and your chest is a shield covered in gold from the heavens. Who told you that you aren’t good enough? Who on earth told you that you are a beggar? We are all children of God. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ. We are all a part of God’s divine plan, and this fact makes us all important. Through Christ, we are all connected. We are all connected to the supreme source of life. This isn’t some type of hippie mumbo-jumbo, or some cliché motivational platitude, it’s the truth. And you know it too. It’s time to open your spiritual eyes and recognize that you are called to live your life as an heir to the Kingdom of God. You are royalty, so accept it! Get up, do not be afraid and everything you ask in faith shall be given unto you in God’s time. Stand firm and have faith, soon you will see.

Daniel Habif
Motivational Speaker

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DON’T PRETEND

Few things in life are as important as standing in your truth. It’s high time people stopped being so comfortable with phoniness. There’s no need to pretend to be more than you are, or to think less of yourself at all. We are all equal, with different nuances to our skills and abilities. Regardless of who you are or where you come from, we all basically share the same inner essence. Every person is perfectly capable of experiencing contentment, or attaining great success in life. Unfortunately we are also susceptible to insecurities and self-doubt. We never want to take responsibility for our lives and we blindly fall victim to perfectionism. In the process, we constantly try to justify unreasonable behavior.

Life’s about the little things. It’s a about finding joy in the beautiful simplicity of our shared reality. Instead of trying to get the most out of time, learn to savor it. Bathe with calm, eat slowly, unbutton with pace, soothe yourself with love and stop being so fixated on what to expect next. Enjoy your sleep and dream big. Eat what you want and be spontaneous. It’s ok to cry every now and then, but don’t end up choking on your tears. If times are tough, turn on the radio and sing, even if your voice is trembling and hoarse. Choose to live in happiness. Choose to live in purpose. Make a sincere prayer and tell God everything that bothers you. Pray about what you want to change and let God take the wheel. Life is simple, but we tend to complicate it with so much noise and distractions. If you start to live authentically, you can walk a mile in the dark, but the light inside you will always shine a away.

Daniel Habif
Motivational Speaker

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THE QUESTION

Most of our thought processes are based on pessimism. Whenever we contemplate an issue or a dilemma, we end up asking a series of circular questions and answers. We fixate on trying to reveal the unknown and lose sight of our train of thought. If we re-think the way we reason, and make a few modifications to how we solve problems, there will be a dramatic improvement to how we gain understanding of the many mysteries we encounter.
Change the Question   

Example:  

How do I do this, if it is impossible?

  • Notice how in this question, the answer is implied in the second clause and doesn’t allow you to generate a new process of thought, much less a new path of discernment. Word-choice seems trivial, but it has a profound subliminal effect on our perception. In the given example, all hope is lost purely because of the choice to include the words “if it is impossible.” Whether or not it was intentional, this negative phrasing turned faith into an abstract concept when it should be a central catalyst.

Rephrasing:

How do I do this?

  • By reformulating the question as illustrated above, you open endless opportunities to activate your potential. Even though the circumstances being questioned are unknown, eliminating pessimistic language allows you to be both proactive and creative about finding an answer. Optimism and neutral language activates your faith, and the concept in question ceases to be abstract. Clearly your mind will be more receptive to answering this question if there are no barriers established by negative-phrasing.

This is the key to changing the way we think. It seems simplistic, but if we condition our minds with thoughts that don’t stand in conflict with our intentions, we position ourselves to stop asking redundant questions and start finding useful answers. If you can train your mind to relinquish the inertia of negativity, you’ll be able to relax and figure out what needs to be done.

IF YOU CAN’T FIND THE ANSWER, IT IS BECAUSE YOU KEEP ASKING THE SAME QUESTION!

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NO GUTS NO GLORY!

There’s big news! The perfect time to chase your dreams does not exist; it is a lie, it’s an illusion that is rooted in fear and self-sabotage. If you want to accomplish anything in life, the time is now. Not later, not when everything falls into place, it’s now. Opportunity knocks only once, and if you hesitate to seize the day, who knows if, or when, you’ll ever get the same chance again. Sometimes in life you just have to go for it! You have to take courage and fight for your dreams. Open your heart and your mind to the possibilities that boldness can achieve. It’s not enough just to be prepared for action, you also need to be willing.

Stop waiting and go for it! No guts no glory – for thus says the Holy Spirit: life is short, there is no time to think or to plan. Run fast, but without haste. Run far, and do not surrender. No matter what, keep running. This is the only way for success to eclipse regret at the end of your life’s journey. When all is said and done, you may become exhausted, sore, torn, cracked and broken… but it if you were bold enough to act, you will sing with joy. This has been my story. This has been my truth. I ran, and I ran forward. I put away my fears, and followed my dreams. I believed, I leapt, and I flew. And yes, I even fell. But I still got up and tried again. Through it all I learnt an undeniable truth; nothing and no one can stop a person who doesn’t give up.

You may be filled with fear, but that doesn’t mean you should stop. Use your fears as a vaccine. Use it to stay alert. Use it to stay focused. Don’t ever let anxiety overwhelm you because fear is not who you are, it’s what you feel. And what you feel can change at any given moment. You are a warrior. You are a fighter created to conquer fear. So be courageous and victory shall be your reward. Your wounds will one day be redeemed by The Lord and He will give you a crown worthy of your faith.

The Lord has given you the word of thy days ahead. If you are bold enough to act, the rest will come.

Daniel Habif

Motivational Speaker

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4 TROUBLING BEHAVIORS THAT MARRIED COUPLES SHOULD NEVER SWEEP UNDER THE RUG

Marriage is arguably the most important commitment a person can make in their lifetime. Not only does it bind a couple together as partners, it requires each spouse in a marriage to adapt to both predictable and unpredictable circumstances in the long-term. Marriage is often romanticized as a magical union between two individuals. People innocently expect to live happily ever after simply because they’ve managed to profess undying love in an extravagant ceremony. After the confetti settles however, marriage ultimately reveals itself for the colossal mission that it truly is. In the big picture, marriage is a merging of two distinct lives. It’s a decision not just to live with someone, but to grow with them. To evolve with them. It’s a decision to become so entwined with a partner that you can even share the tremendous privilege of raising children as a family unit of your own. Marriage is for real, and it’s forever.

In spite of all the good intentions that people walk into marriage with, several couples continue to suffer the heartbreaking fate of separation and divorce. Life’s challenges have a tragic way of creating division in relationships. In turn, the more divided couples are by conflict and betrayal, the more difficult it is for them to grow and share in life. The bad news is that marriage is tough. The good news however, is that so are you. If you can train yourself to recognize early signs of discord in your marriage, you stand a chance at preventing your relationship from unravelling. Here are four important traps to avoid in order to keep a marital bond alive and strong:

1.       Selfishness:

Marriage cannot possibly work without cooperation, and cooperation demands team spirit. One of the most important ways to keep partnership alive in a marriage is to be considerate and inclusive. Always bear in mind the impact of your decisions, however small, on the strength of your relationship.

2.       Unfaithfulness:

Jealousy is more than an emotion, it’s a human instinct. Whenever it manifests in relationships, it poisons couples with suspicion and insecurity. One of your highest priorities as a spouse should be to ensure that your partner can always trust that your affection is exclusive. Don’t cheat physically, and don’t cheat emotionally.

3.       Violence and Abuse:

It’s impossible to go through life without experiencing conflict and disagreement with others. Whatever the circumstance, if aggression and hostility play a role in how you resolve conflicts within your relationship, it is doomed to fail. Always be respectful and mature about the way you interact with your spouse. Never resort to violence as a way to solve problems.

4.       Avoidance:

When things get rough or dull, one of the easiest things to do is hide away. Sometimes it’s with social media, sometimes it’s with hobbies, sometimes it’s even with work. People come up with all kinds of excuses not to confront difficult situations. It’s important to beware of how often you prefer to ignore problems instead of facing them. If avoiding your partner becomes a reflex, you will inevitably drift too far apart from your spouse.

Marriage takes work. It can only survive if both partners are fully invested in preserving respect and dignity in every dimension of their shared experiences. Remember to love your spouse. Remember to appreciate them. But most of all, remember to be deliberate about nurturing the connection you share. Don’t just allow the winds of fate to dictate how close your marriage is. Choose every day to work together and build a strong foundation for your future. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how RISE Programs can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.

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