3 CARDINAL RULES THAT EVERY SINGLE-PARENT SHOULD LIVE BY
Most people are taught from an early age that building an ideal life means coming up with clearly defined long-term plans. Consequently, as people transition into adulthood from adolescence, we set about pursuing these very plans. We plan to have successful and glamorous careers. We also plan to get married to the perfect spouse, have some cute kids, and raise a happy family all the way into our golden years. Plenty of people are fortunate enough to have all these plans fall exactly into place. For some however, life throws a few curveballs that totally redefine their cherished plans. One of those curveballs, is life as a single parent.
You are Not Alone:
According to studies conducted by the Pew Research Center, approximately one third of children in the United States live in a household with a single parent – and the number keeps growing annually. Consistently declining trends in marriage since the 1960s means that more and more people are unexpectedly finding themselves committed to the responsibility of raising children either as solo parents, or in shared custody arrangements. No matter who you are, being a single parent is challenging. Not only are single parents expected to be breadwinners, they also have to maintain parental authority and provide emotional support without the help of an equally accountable spouse. No matter how difficult things may be in the present however, never lose sight of the fact that you can successfully raise children as a single parent. Millions have done it before you did, and that means you can to. Here are three parenting tips to always practice in order to build a happy, single-parent home.
1. Make Time Together Sacred:
Being a single parent creates the unique occasion to give your kids devoted one-on-one attention. Take advantage of this opportunity. Depending on the circumstances, the absence of a second parent can trigger feelings of abandonment in children, so, make sure they understand that you will be by their side through thick and thin.
2. Start Some Family Traditions:
Shared experiences are a very strong way to bond with other people, especially family members. By starting a family tradition, not only will you create shared experiences with your kids, you’ll also introduce a sense of stability into their routines. Traditions can be something as simple as family dinner, or game night. The only thing that matters is that you take the traditions seriously.
3. Don’t Sweep Everything Under the Rug:
It can be awkward to explain the absence of a second parent to children, and most parents avoid bringing it up unless the topic is unavoidable. This is fair enough when dealing with very young children, however, don’t avoid talking about the past to the point of completely suppressing it. The older your children grow, the more they need to understand and accept the truth about their lives. Hiding it only encourages them to exist in denial or self-loathing.
Most people don’t plan on becoming single parents, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing if you become one. It might take a lot more work and sacrifice to take care of kids on your own, but even so, you’re still perfectly capable of raising successful, well-adjusted children. Keep trying one day at a time and you’ll get it done eventually. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Programs Academy for Business Coaching and Leadership Training can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.