6 SIMPLE HABITS TO TAME AND CONTROL ANGER
Anger is one of the most universal human experiences. Regardless of culture or background, we all know how it feels to simmer, or even boil over, with fury. Anger is defined as an emotional state characterized by intense feelings of displeasure, frustration and annoyance. When we get angry, we get hostile and develop a compelling desire to express our mood through verbal and physical aggression. As normal as it is to experience anger, people also have an ethical duty not to act offensively in the name of venting anger. If anger is allowed to manifest to the point of verbal cruelty or violence, unnecessary and excessive damages could end up being inflicted on people who don’t deserve to suffer.
Leaders Never Lose their Cool
Being in leadership particularly demands strong anger-management skills. Considering how many difficult decisions leaders frequently make, having little or no ability to remain composed in the face of provocation is a recipe for disaster. This is mainly because anger causes impulsiveness. Left unchecked, it has the capacity to manipulate people into contradicting every instinct of good leadership they possess. The key to healthy expression of anger isn’t absolute suppression. Nor is it unconstrained expression. Rather, it’s about lifestyle. It’s about routinely practicing habits, in the absence of anger, that actually serve to neutralize aggression at the moment anger begins to build up. Here are 6 healthy habits that significantly help people prevent destructive expression of anger:
1. Take up a Hobby:
Especially for people who deal with anger on a repeated basis, fixation happens to be one of the behaviors that deepens anger. Without some form of regular escape, people experiencing frustration have no choice but to think obsessively about their problems and conflicts. Doing something as simple as a hobby not only offers the opportunity to escape psychologically, it also helps regain perspective about how justifiable anger actually is in a given situation.
2. Reject Pessimism:
Positive thinking is powerful. It has the capacity to inspire people into exceptional achievement. When it comes to anger, it has the capacity to prevent people from overrating the true severity of their triggers. Rejecting pessimism doesn’t mean ignorantly viewing the world through rose-colored glasses. It means choosing to have an attitude that isn’t easily swayed towards negative emotion by negligible concerns.
3. Accept that You Can’t Control Everything:
As is the case with fixation, frustration and anger go hand in hand. When people get frustrated, it’s usually because events are transpiring in an unpredictable or uncontrollable way. One of the most futile things a person can ever do therefore is try to gain control of circumstances that simply cannot be dictated. If a problem is too big to solve, don’t overwhelm yourself by thinking or acting on it pointlessly.
4. Learn What Commonly Triggers Your Anger:
Some sources of anger are spontaneous. Most of them however are actually recurring. Instead of drifting through life reacting to the obstacles that trigger anger after the fact, take some proactive initiative to analyze when, how much, and why you actually experience anger. Becoming self-aware helps reveal whether your anger is superficial, or whether it’s caused by deeper issues that require therapy.
Angry outbursts are usually the culmination of a breakdown in communication. They represent an attempt to forcefully impose a person’s will as a result of misunderstanding or disagreement. Learning how to communicate with others might sound unrelated to anger, but it is actually at the heart of warding off the likelihood of confrontation. Simple conversation can completely eliminate the very misunderstanding and disagreement that otherwise prompts anger.
6. Pick Your Battles:
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. If you happen to be the type of person that has to win every argument, the sheer volume of conflict that becomes a part of your life will inevitably consume you. Before giving in to bad temper, make a habit of asking what you stand to gain from becoming angry about a problem. If the answer is nothing, then let it go. It may surprise you to discover that many annoyances in life actually resolve themselves without your reaction or involvement.
Anger isn’t an emotion to be dealt with in the moment. In order to gain control of anger it’s healthier to preempt it with habits that cognitively reset your attitude and perspective about how to react to the issues that trigger anger. With the right balance of meditation, self-awareness, and practicality, you’ll find that most of what causes anger hardly warrants outbursts and confrontation. Check out more of RISE Programs’ Blogs for helpful advice on leadership, and remember to spread the word by sharing this post. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823- 7757 to find out how RISE Programs can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.